If you’re a single woman in her 40s and you’ve recently started dating. A great guy who you think might be the man for you, congratulations!
You’ve successfully navigated meeting him and going on the first date plus a few more. Perhaps you two have gotten past it.
After the initial small talk and have started discussing a relationship together. Now what?
First, now that you’re in your 40s, remember, you have all the time in the world. There is no need to race to exclusivity.
Before you commit yourself to a relationship with this great guy, ask yourself, “Am I ready to take myself out of the dating pool?”
Before you remove yourself from the “after 40” dating scene, you want to make sure. You’ve done a few things to be certain about what you’re doing.
Dating Tips for Women in Their 40s.
By April Braswell
How Many Mature Men Have You Considered?
Have you met and dated at least 10 men in the past year or so? If you’re close to that number, that’s OK. 10 is just a guideline. It is not a strict requirement.
What Types of Men Over 40 Have You Dated?
Also, have you allowed yourself to consider some very different men? That you dated when you were in your 20s and early 30s? Now that you’re in your 40s, some of your husband’s requirements.
It might still be the same as they were when you were younger. However, their order of priority might be different.
Let me give you an example. If now you’re a divorced and single mom, then you are not looking for great potential father material. Your children, hopefully, still have their father.
What you’re looking for now is a man who would be a good stepdad. A good stepdad is typically more of a part-time job than a full-time job.
Unless your children’s dad is no longer around. This is just to illustrate how your life is different now than in your 20s.
Does Your Man Have Time to Share with You?
Also, by now that you’re in your 40s, you have an established career. You might not be looking for a man with massive earning potential. Because now you have that financial security and status yourself!
What does that mean for you now for your after-40 mate selection? Naturally, you want a man who is financially stable.
You also want a man who has enough time and outside interests. To share himself with you and be an interesting life companion, right?
Now that you’ve considered what you want in a relationship. And if you are saying yes to most of these questions, then, yes agree to become exclusive!
As the two of you start a relationship, remember to share both fun date nights going out. As well as the daily activities of life, like grocery shopping together. Have fun and let me know how it’s going.
How to Be Attractive in Your 50S.
By April Braswell
Did you just celebrate your 50th birthday? Congratulations! You are now in your 50s. A whole different world of dating and internet dating sites has opened to you.
When you’re “single and looking” in your 50s. Several of the same dating etiquette rules and guidelines.
Apply to senior love as they did when you were younger. One of those is that whether you are a mature man or lady, you want to look your best.
The problem is when you’re 25 years old. All you need to do is roll out of bed, shower, brush your teeth, and comb your hair, and you look terrific.
Now that you’re single and in your 50s, you can still look great and be attractive. It’s just that now in your 50s to be attractive, you need to apply a little more concerted effort.
First, good basic grooming still applies. Yes, that means showering and shaving.
For the Gentlemen in their 50s:
Several men in their 50s often want to skip shaving at least a few days a week. A little beard stubble can be attractive to a man in his 50s.
However, gentlemen, do talk to your barber and be sure to groom your stubble. It might grow unevenly. You can sport a modern stubble look, just do keep it trimmed and tidy.
Secondarily, do try some aftershaves to discover what you like. Some men can use just a touch of a masculine scent by simply using a scented deodorant. When it comes to scent, just do remember, that less is more. Keep it light.
Lastly, do spiff up a bit when you’re going on a date. Ladies still love it when a man wears a navy blazer. Sure, you can be casual in the modern age of digital dating and just pair it with an open-collar shirt.
If the occasion is a little dressier, then do plan to wear a tie, also. She will love it. If the situation is more casual, a nice and clean tropical print shirt. That is not too colorful and can be just fine. It depends on where you live in the country.
For the Ladies in Their 50s:
Ladies, you want to keep some of the same ideas in mind. Do keep your personal grooming standards up.
Some of you may have attracted a first husband in your 20s without having worn any make-up. However, now that you are over 50 years old, you likely would benefit from using some light makeup.
Before you head over to the make-up area department, keep it simple and light. First swing by the local drugstore.
Try out a light powder foundation paired with a little mascara to enhance your eyes. Do add a little lip color whether it is in a tinted lip gloss or sheer lipstick.
When it comes to how you dress. A cute pair of jeans paired with heels is a fun feminine look. Men still love seeing women wearing a skirt or a dress, so wear those when you can.
Once you’re looking great, you’ll be flirting. With the mature men showing up at the coffee shops and the bagel store for lunch.
Once you’re flirting, go ahead and ask for the date! Now that you’re being attractive after 50, the dates are sure to line up.
What are the mature dating challenges you’re finding? Where do want some help? Chime in the comment section here, and I’ll be sure to address them in future articles.
Tips for Staying Attractive in Your 50s
By April Braswell
Boomers and Gen X generations are both known for their great love of being physically fit. These are the generations who made jogging, aerobics, and gym membership popular!
Now that you’re in your 50s, it’s no time to stop being active. Most midlife singles like you want a mature mate who’s physically active to feel attraction.
However, now in your 50s, you want to be sure to pursue physical exercise. Activities that won’t stress your joints.
What are some of your options? Maybe it’s time to do low-impact aerobics or join a yoga class. Check with your doctor about the condition of your joints getting stressed. If you still want to keep jogging.
Staying active in your fifties is not just about being attractive. For mature singles, it’s about your being attractive. They are attracted to mature singles who enjoy and seek to share.
Their active lifestyles with a potential mate. You might be a jogger, but your senior date might bicycle or enjoy moderate hikes.
Mature Midlife Mate.
In order to find and attract a physically active mature midlife mate. You’ll want to look in a few different places.
In addition to online dating, you’ll want to go to venues and activities. Where you’re likely to meet mature singles with an active lifestyle.
Seek out, local activity groups. Engage in activities that are not exactly the ones that you regularly pursue. To stretch yourself and meet active singles with complementary interests to yours.
In addition to going to the gym when mature singles might be there. It means you want to attend things like dance classes.
Sure, there’s ballroom dancing. They’re great fun. But many of them cannot provide you with a regular dance partner. Plus, it’s at least a 6-week commitment which might not yield any potential dates.
Dances with Mixers.
Instead, aim for dances with mixers. Like English Folk Dances and Contra Dances. Unlike some other dance types, both folk dance styles. Often start their dance nights with a mini-class.
So, if you’re new to the dance style, show up early. Now, of course, if you’re a smart single in your 50s. Even, if you’re already skilled in the dance style, show up early, so you can meet the new dancers that night!
Also, they’re getting to partner with someone like you who is more skilled. Really helps and supports them as new dancers.
While not every dance that evening will be a mixer. Not all the dances will be with one partner either. Invariably, you’ll have the opportunity to dance briefly. With many of the other dancers there and meet them all.
Then during the breaks, hang out by the food and water area. Why? Because after dancing, everyone will be drinking lots of water. You can easily chat with the other dancers!
Do keep active to stay attractive in your 50s, and while you’re doing so, who knows who’ll you meet? Maybe your next midlife mate!
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